"By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one
Where are we in life without those we love? Not very far up the ladder of life, unfortunately, if we choose to be alone. There is something about that feeling of isolation that can wreck havoc on a man's soul. It can make the days seem longer, almost unattainable, with no one to share your hopes and dreams. We all need people around us to share life's adventures. God intended it this way.
Family can be immediate or special friendships that evolved and rank on the same level
as the closeness felt by family members. Family is our support system, they remind us of who we are and ground us when the time is needed. What is the first thing that comes to mind when tragedy or joy strikes? Who can I share this with, of course! The nuances of life are funny as this question taps lightly. After all, God did have a sense of humor when he made each of us with our various personalities.
Even those we love can frustrate us some days, but they can also be a God sent when we want to share information that friends may not understand. Life's joys and turbulence would not have such an impact if we had no one to share in these moments. These individuals are always there, when we need them most, offering a hand should we stumble and fall. No questions asked, no need for retribution, working on the divine principle of love. They are loyal and stoic giving us the needed support all the days of our lives.
God clearly states the importance of loving one another. "By this all people will know you are my disciples, if you have love for one another." I believe there are many hidden messages here to mentor our life. One, the message speaks of the importance of filling our hearts with love. After all there is a fine line between love and hate.
How can hate grow where there is love? Love builds tolerance for one another. It actually makes the days pass by easier with those little quirks that get in the way when we work or live closely with those we love. As you know, as soon as frustration or animosity hits, you are well aware of how quickly intolerance builds. Being with those we love is never an easy ride, yet, that roller coaster makes life eventful. By keeping those we love in our hearts, we make that trip less jarring and more welcomed.
Most importantly, God doesn't want us to be alone. We are made in his likeness. God didn't want to be alone: and,therefore, created man. For those of us who have feared an issue alone, for fearing of telling anyone, you know how devastating this sense of being ostracized can be. God wanted us to have support, to have one and other to lean on. And, to be a shoulder to others if needed. Reach out, hug, and be loved.
1. Is there a family member you need to reconnect with? Often, these can be the most difficult of all. After all, our pride stands stoic in the way not allowing the ability to heal. There is a wonderful article How to Heal Family Wounds to get you started. Swallow that pride, and allow God to guide you.
2. If you have a spouse or children. Do set aside one day a week to appreciate them. Make it Family Fun Day, and plan activities accordingly. Relationships need work, they don't blossom unless you water them frequently.
3. Take time to play everyday with those you love. Playing allows us to bring out that child like ego that is often suppressed. It has such positive effects, and brings those much needed endorphins giving us a bright outlook on life.
4. Remember it is just as important to share God with those you love. Give him credit when things go well in your life. When things go astray, remind remind yourself and others that God's hand is working and we may not always be privy to its intent.