"Thou will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.."
The disappoints that disturb us most are usually those caused by other people. Many individuals who have been hurt by others are missing out on their new beginnings because they keep reopening old wounds. But no matter what we have gone through, no matter how unfair it was, or how disappointed we are, we must release and let it go.
Marie is still torn about what happened between her sister and she seven years ago. "We had been great friends before being sisters," she exclaimed. "We talked on the phone every day." It was unimaginable a day would go by without the two sharing their inter most thoughts. "Our brother had died and Lauren, my sister, was very involved with him," she stated. "But once he passed on I found out she had devised a will with him that excluded his children from receiving any insurance benefits and all monies would be transferred to my sister and if she died her children."
Marie went on telling the story of how things began to deteriorate once the family found out. "Everyone was sickened, and wondered how she could enable such a thing. After all, she had a great job that paid well," Marie said. Things began to unravel quickly and she felt estranged from her sister, but due to a strong loyal bond still felt connected. She would often tell her sister she loved her no matter what type of outcome transpires. They continued talking daily about other things in life.
"Well, the day came when my deceased brother's house and business sold," Marie continued. "I called that day to congratulate her, and she didn't call back." "I tried for three days afterwards very concerned that something happened. After all, this was so unlike her." Marie then decided to send an email to her sister in hopes that she would respond to that.
She did receive a prompt reply. "Marie, I'm so sorry that you've been ill. I am not going to contact you after this letter. Please respect this in not contacting me either. I am going to go through therapy and will contact you when I am better. Please do not try to contact me in the meantime."
Marie sat staring at that letter incoherently trying to decipher what Lauren was trying to say. After all she had just been diagnosed with a chronic illness four months before. "How could she do this to me?" she asked. "Is money that important to her than family?"
To this date Marie still receives no contact from her sister although she's tried to make contact with Lauren. "There is a huge hole in my heart that can never be filled," she said. "We had so many plans laid for each other when we retired. I can't believe she threw me out like a worn out old shoe."
Disappointments almost always accompany setbacks. When you suffer loss, nobody expects you to be an impenetrable rock or an inaccessible island to the sea. Not even God expects you to be so tough that you simply ignore the disappointments in life, shrugging them off as though you are impervious to pain. No, when we experience failure or loss, its' natural to feel remorse or sorrow. That the way God made us. If you lose your job, most likely you are going to experience a strong set of disappointment. If you go through a broken relationship, that's go to hurt. If you lose a loved one there's a time of grieving, a time of sorrow. That is normal and to be expected.
But if you are still grieving and feeling sorrow over disappointment that took place a year or more ago, something is wrong! You are hindering your future. You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won't happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, "I don't care how hard this is, I am not going to let this get the best of me."
The enemy loves to deceive us into wallowing in self-pity, fretting, feeling sorry for ourselves, or having a chip on our shoulders. "Why did this happen to me?" "God must not love me. He doesn't answer my prayers." "Why am I always struggling?"
Such questions may be valid and may even be helpful to consider for a season, but after that, quit wasting your time trying to figure out something you can't change. It's time to move on and start living the life you've been blessed with now.
This Week's Meditation:
Let me recognize the problem so it can be solved.
Meditate on this for several minutes a day. Allow various thoughts to come into your mind. If you are especially upset state:
Let miracles replace all grievances.
Remind yourself of healing each moment. God has you in his arms always.