"Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what god wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is."
Did you know that social, physical, and emotional problems stem from the fact that people don't like themselves? The fact is they are uncomfortable with how they look, talk, or act? They simply don't like their personality! In fact, they are always comparing themselves with other people, wishing they were something different or had something different.
Actually you can be happy with who God made you to be by quit wishing that you were something different. If God had wanted you to look like or act like someone else then he would have made you look like them and act like them already. Don't compare yourself to other people. Learn to be happy with who God made you to be.
God likes variety. That's why he made us all unique. We are like small pieces of the puzzle trapped together to connect to the final picture. He wants us to be original. He never planned on each piece to be an exact replica to life's canvas. Try the following five ways to become more self like.
1. Be honest with yourself.
Integrity is really just being truthful about who you are. With other or in prayer, we have time to rediscover and reconnect to our Christian self.
2. Admit that you don’t know who you really are.
“I wonder if I’ve been changed in the night. Let me think. Was I the same when I got up this morning? I almost think I can remember feeling a little different.” “But if I’m not the same, the next question is ‘Who in the world am I?’ Ah, that’s the great puzzle!”– Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll
Regain your confidence by allowing yourself to grow beyond the not knowing. Understand first that you do not know who you really are to begin with.
3. Take responsibility:
Take charge. Empower yourself to take back authorship of your own life. You are doing yourself and others a disservice by catering your actions towards how you think others will react. Instead, just be yourself, exactly as you are. God has given us all different gifts, talents, and personalities on purpose. You don't really need anybody else's approval to do what you know God wants you to do.
4. Stop projecting your self-doubt, insecurities, second-guessing, and fears on others.
You have to work harder than your fear to make the truest discovery of who am I. The answer only comes from within; no one else can tell you who you are, and blaming others only robs you of your energy. Eventually you must find the courage to accept yourself, or as Derek Walcott puts it, “The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the others welcome, and say, sit here.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you all your life.”
5. Stop pretending.
Actually it is better to be yourself imperfectly, than it is to pretend to be something you are not perfectly. When what you feel, think, and do are all in alignment, you will be rewarded for your courage with a life that reflects your true essence—instead of an invented identity created to please others. By being yourself, you will attract everything that is in alignment with who you truly are. Remember, you are not what others believe you to be; you are what you know you are and nothing else. Love yourself, love your day, love your life!
You do not have to fit into somebody else's mold, and you shouldn't be upset when other people don't fit into your mold. Live with the attitude, "I am enjoying the person God made me to be."
This weeks meditation:
With our Lord's love I am determined to see things differently.
Say this meditation anytime you feel stressed over a situation.