"There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy dwelling places of the Most High."
It can be extremely difficult to focus on the good when, seemingly, bad things are happening in your life. However you can train your mind to focus on the good things in your life rather than dwelling on the bad. This is about changing the way you think and changing your thinking pattern. Do you use any of these thinking patterns in your day to day life?
8 Destructive Patterns
- Thinking life is stinks. Thinking in this pattern promotes everything in life is bad, everybody is not to be trusted and nothing good will ever happen to you e.g. “I won’t get that job, the interviewer didn’t like me, I didn’t particularly like them anyway.”
- Drawing your own conclusions. You tend to make a lot of conclusions without any evidence to back up your conclusions. This can be a really destructive pattern as it can limit you in seeing reality for what it is e.g. “Look at her workstation. She's so obsessed with pleasing the boss.”
- Never me. This is when you think nothing good will ever happen to you. This can be a deep seated way of thinking and it is a deep down inability to believe you are worthy of anything good happening to you e.g. “I’ll never have money, I’ve never had it before so I’ll never have it in the future, might as well carry on with this crappy job, at least it pays the mortgage.”
- I got your number. Presumes you know what people are thinking about you and it’s all bad. e.g. “She thinks I’m an idiot, I’ll try to avoid talking to her.”
- Should, would, could. This type of person knows what they have to do to change their life, they are capable and they know it and they would do it if only……… e.g. “I know I could go to university and I would, but I’m just to busy with other things right now, I’ll apply next year.”
- Emotion based. Your emotions control what you are thinking and therefore your vision of what reality is e.g. “I feel incapable of doing that so I must be incapable”.
- It’s all my fault. You see yourself as being the cause of everything bad that has happened e.g. “It’s my fault he left me for another woman.” You’ll notice this type of person does not take responsibility for the good things that happen.
- They’re all wrong. You see everyone as incapable of doing anything right and your way is the best way to do it e.g. “He can’t do it right, I’ll stay late tonight and fix it when he’s gone.”
The Bible says, "We should cast down every wrong imagination and take into captivity every wrong thought." (2 Corinthians 10:5) Simple put: Don't dwell on it. Get rid of it immediately. Reject it, and choose to think on something positive. If you make the mistake of dwelling on the enemy's lies, you allow that thought process to take root. Sadly, the more you think about it, the more it's going to grow, creating an enemy stronghold in your mind from which attacks can be launched. Night and day this enemy will pummel your mind with notations such as: You're never going to do it. No one in your family had more than a high school education. You're brain doesn't work as fast as hers. Your grandmother was always depressed like you. You were born into the wrong family with no money.
To change your thinking pattern you have to
- Recognize when the enemy attacks your mind saying that you don't have what it takes. God says you do have what it takes. Whom are you going to believe?
- Be aware there is no such thing as the wrong side of the tracks with God. If you put your trust in him, god will make your life significant.
- Slowly change and introduce a new thinking pattern. Believe what god says about you. Start agreeing with positive thoughts. God's thoughts will fill you with faith, hope, and victory.
- Keep working on all your destructive thinking patterns. Realize it didn't take a day to get into this mess. Thought patterns bombard our mind every minute of the day. Catching them and changing them takes time.
- Change your life with your new way of thinking. Find positive sources. This includes friends, family, and social media.
This Week's Meditation:
My unloving thoughts about ______________ are destroying my life. My holiness is my salvation!
Meditate on this thought 3 times each day. Spend a few minutes answering the blank. After each thought remind yourself you are made in God's image.