"She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches
over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her
children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many
woman do noble things, but you surpass them all." Charm is deceptive , and
beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her
the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."
Mother's Day is Sunday, May 13th. What type of relationship do you hold with your mother? Is it one that is fleeting depending on personal needs or family traditions? Are you in conversation with her on holidays only? Call her when you need a special favor? Make time for her only on her birthday? Have you ever formed that bond of friendship since hitting adulthood? Or, do you just go through the moves laden with unfortunate memories from childhood?
If the latter is true, realize that you may be harboring trauma from your childhood. These unfortunate incidents have shaped you into the person you are today. And, unfortunately, have formed the side of us we usually don't appreciate. You must free yourself of these negative feelings. The healing process begins by shedding some light on your feelings. Oh, this may be something you may not want to broach on Mother's Day thinking, "It never does any good." But, the reality is, for your own well-being, it needs to be aired. Of course, when you air it, don't assume everything will have an explanation. Sometimes, stress in life has caused emotional imbalances. Your mother may not be readily able to admit to this. After all it is something she can not go back and fix. Your mother may be a victim, too, and embarrassed to say so. But, be comforted in the knowledge your voice was heard. By getting it out on the table, you are allowing the healing process to begin. Then, above all, let her know you love and need her.
Proverbs gives us an idealistic view of the perfect mother. Or, at least the idealistic view of how she should perform on most days. Underneath is reality. And, reality can be heartless many a day. Unfortunately, we as children of God, are not perfect as God. Instead, we rely on our own tools that we feel work best and get us through life. Sadly, these tools stay with us as memoirs to our children. We can't undo what is done, but we can make amends. Amends begins by opening up and stating how you feel. Possibly there may be still issues that affect you today. These must also be explained allowing time for her to respond. The most important factor is to get your feelings out on the table and allow time for response. This will begin the healing process for you, and hopefully build a stronger bond with your parent.
As you open up the new avenues this Mother's Day, begin a relationship that will build often. Be forgiving and understanding. Remember it takes two to tango. You may not have been the most optimal child. Make a pact to get in touch more often and become friends. Plan one day a week, or at least two days a month as Mom Day. Let friendship start anew. Don't be wait until the Lord takes her to realize the word's that should have been spoken in life.
1. If your Mother has passed, write a note explaining your feelings- then seal it away. Or, have a mental conversation with her saying you forgive all that's happened to you.
2. If you were a difficult child, and this has caused issues of trust in your relationship, apologize.
3. If she lives away, find ways to keep in touch more often.
4. If you're at lost as to what to buy, try Mother's Day Gift Ideas.
5. Plan to spend ONE day a week with Mom. Incorporate other family activities with her to bring her closer to you.