2 Corinthians 6:14
"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness
with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? "
There are great laws in the Bible that specifically speak of the certainty of setting boundaries. And, yes, boundaries need to be set especially for people who "suck the life out of us". I know this sounds unchristian at first, but I truly believe God protects us from individuals such as these by the verification of today's verse. This is not be confused with the Biblical verse, "turn the other cheek". Each verse is a lesson in its own respect, such as the latter, that prompts us not to become violent or used by uncaring individuals. "Do not be unequally yoked," is a powerful verse. God tells us not to become part of a relationship that is not our equal. We don't see eye to eye, and God knows this. It makes perfect sense since people that are not in our own realm have alternate ideas that often drag us down, make us confused, and just shake our whole being. Do you know of someone who always sees the cup half full? Always desperate for attention? Always in need? A good partnership is two-way street. A solid partnership has the same likes and dislikes that bonds the persons together. Partners often enjoy the same entertainment. They listen to each other, and offer solid advice. There is trust and compassion evident in the relationship. Do not surround yourself with people that drag you down. Yes, do be a Christian when someone is in need, but you don't have to inundate your time helping this individual that may never see the light.
"What partnership as righteousness without lawlessness?" Partnerships can be with your spouse, partner, children, friends, or others who are close in your life. Even though we are surrounded by those we love, it is important to set your own personal boundaries to ensure you do not smother, nor do they smother you. It is often especially hard for woman to set boundaries as we are generally nurturing in spirit. But, nonetheless, it is important to set boundaries to keep your relationships healthy. Actually, there are several points that are important to keep your own sanity.
What setting boundaries means:
Setting boundaries means you are taking responsibility and
standing by your personal code of ethics and values.
Setting boundaries reflect your right to say NO to things that
are not right for you.
Setting boundaries means you are learning the importance of
self-care, self respect, and self love.
Setting boundaries emerge when we learn to go within, listen to
our authentic selves, value our own decisions and trust
Setting boundaries emerge from knowing what you believe,
dislike, or like is important and relevant.
Setting boundaries emerge from deep introspection and the realization of what you
deserve and do not deserve.
1. How do you create a boundary?
1. Decide what you will accept and what you will not. If you find someone is
crossing your boundaries, describe the behavior you find unacceptable.
2. Describe what action steps you will take if your boundary is violated.
3. Enforce your boundaries if necessary.
2. Be sure to plan your consequence BEFORE addressing that individual who has over stepped your boundary. Be direct and concise of what you will tolerate. Don't waver should the boundary be crossed again. There is no sense in setting up boundaries if you can't follow through with a consequence.
3. Never apologize to an individual for setting a boundary. Why should you? After all most boundaries are simply common sense. You will send mixed signals. you must be firm and direct. Otherwise, that person will find an alternate avenue that will not conform to your expectations.
4. Above all, pray. Pray, pray, pray. God will direct you on how to handle this. You are a child of God, and deserve to be loved and respected!