1 Corinthians 7:15
"But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such
cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to
restuassured you have one.
If you feel your faults and defects prevent you
from seeing the faults and defects of others,
You may be the only contact with God someone my have
Be proud of that.
Most of us have one family member that seems to be drifting further away from what our ideal expectations of true Christianity are. They seem to have taken on a candid personal materialistic gain rather than allowing the guiding light of Christ. These individuals seem to be chained with money, power, illicit drugs, poor relationships, or mental illness that leaves them unable to reach out to those who love them.
Sadly, we spend countless hours in frustration or tears wondering what would be the correct massive shaking session that could center his brain again. We know these bright, potentially capable beings are able to be shining stars again if they would just put their vices down and move forward.
Oh, but what pain we gather from watching them! We pray endlessly hoping God will close the gap enabling us to be family members again. We pray we are able to unite with these people to share worries and milestones once more. We want to embrace them and close that family circle of protection so that nothing will tempt them again.
But, God wants us to open ourselves to our lost loved one's choices. We do this by honoring the choices he has made. The Bible says, "If an unbelieving partner separates let it be so. In such cases your brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace."
But we want to help them Lord! One of the hardest things we can do is to watch a loved one fall. But, we must remember that the same God who fulfills all our needs is the same God who is helping that lost brethren.
Emilie Cady once said, from Lessons in Truth, "God knows what he needs, and the minute he opens himself to receive it, he will. YOUR job is to pray for his opening and watch for the signs; even the smallest signs that the opening has taken place, the healing is the beginning. Honor him enough to know the truth about him. The truth is, God is in the midst of him doing a mighty work."
So the issue is, do you want them to get it together for your sake or their sake? An easy way to find out is to make two columns.
List actual truths
List Actual Opinions
Love your brother as you love yourself. Honor him by honoring his choices.
Praise him and see the good in him no matter what your eyes behold. See him as a spirit, not as a body. Praise him silently in your heart for being a child of God. Praise him openly because you love him. When he comes to you for help, help him in ways that bring you joy. When you cannot help him, tell the truth. Do not say you do not have when you do. That does not honor what God has given you. Do not say you cannot do, say you will not do. Honor yourself for the right to choose; in this way you honor him for the choices he makes. Only through the truth can the light and power of God remove darkness. Only when you honor your brother not as your brother but as a perfect creation of God can you honor the God within yourself.